Optimisim...How much??

Optimism, sanguine, hopeful,(be)positive.....

These would be some of the most common words one would listen in a gyan session...in a motivating session....or in any self-help book. The so called guru would paraphrase these words in multitudinous convictions and you come out all  "highly motivated" from the room..all charged up to take things under your control now and solve all your problems..But alas..! the tempo lasts only for a while and you are gripped with the pessimist fever again..you again start to feel deplorable about yourself because things stop turning out your way....you again feel the darkness in front of  you...you become pensive...all the gloomy and melancholy scenes are painted in front of you....you look for someone who can sympathize with you...who can empathize with you....who can solve all your problems with a clap...you look out for shoulders to cry on...gals generally find them easily...men do not...(Take life as it comes is,i believe, one of the most farce sentences people blurt out..!!!)...you need a dose of that session once again to recharge the batteries...fortunately, these batteries last longer than those of Duracell...But sooner or later you realize how shallow those fundae given by the guru are...you realize that the guru has been saying the same thing over and over again..and most of them are specious...

Everyone has a problem...As Vivekananda said," If you do not face a problem someday, realise that you are on a wrong path". I admire that person so much, his sayings seem so true, so plausible and pragmatic....but definitely they are not spurious...But they do generate a spark in you.

i have seen friends,brothers,sisters cribbing over what to do with their problems. the problems may be minutiae or may be mammoth...But everyone cribs...and i feel everyone should....but not always, not in front of everyone....Some people start whining in front of every second person they meet...that soon you prefer to take the circuitous path to avoid that person....for you know that the only thing he would do to you is take you down along with him...i certainly like gals in this regard..for they do not break down anywhere...but only when with that one person they are comfortable with....so the main problem lies in finding that one person...but once they are done solving this, u would be surprised by the content they have...even the number of items in their purse would be lesser..!!!

Men are of two types: one who do not start  and one who do not stop...no matter how friendly you are with them, they may not even tell you their simplest of the problems....for they feel it wud be futile..that they may solve it themselves....and many other such reasons.The other type i have already described above.....but believe me...every single person has countless number of problems...some crib that they do not have a job,those who have,have issues with them, some have issues with their manager,some with their  (gal)frens and so on...the list is endless...

I have been the recipient of so many stories and i(the gyan guru.!!!) also just ask them to be patient and be OPTIMISTIC.!!!..for i also tell them that problems are bound to come..but the solutions lie in those problems only ...and u need to solve only those riddles...but then am also human...even i have my batteries discharged time and again....and in those moments i ponder over the question i talk about..

How Much OPTIMISTIC a person should be..??

and along with these come out a number of scenarios, a number of riddles one can encounter....Some of them may be:
1)when you have been giving your best and still not getting the desired results, what should  you do with your optimism...
2)when you are try to work your way out through the mess you create but still manage to screw it up..how much optimist you shud be?? and even if you manage to clear the mess but repeat a similar one next time..should you pat yourself..!!!!
3)when you do something,and it can be anything, and always find some sort of impedance, will you be optimistic?
4) when you know(or at least it is apparent), that things would not turn out the way you want them to be,should you be hopelessly optimistic?And if you are optimistic even then,will not that amount to fooling yourself that good things would happen?
5)when you love a gal and she refuses you, should you be hopeful that one day she wud come to you? should you continue to be good frens with her on the hope that one day she will understand your feelings??


Am still trying to figure out the answer to some of these questions....Any suggestions???